Monday, January 23, 2017

Stay At Home vs. Working Mothers - Why the War Must End

Stay At Home vs. Working Mothers - Why the War Must End

 

Yesterday I was compelled to write this blog after witnessing a female professional criticize a mom for choosing to stay at home with her children.  Even after being part of the amazing Women's March in NYC and meeting so many strong, caring mothers... it kept me up all night.  It is shocking to me that this is still an issue that I feel the need to write about.  As a professional turned stay at home mom who does some freelance work on the side, I'm always open to both sides.  I'm sympathetic to the working mom who worries she is missing precious time with her kids and I also understand the stay at home mom who gets lonely... constantly worrying that she isn't contributing to society.  I have friends on both sides of the debate and what I do know is that every mom has insecurities.  No matter how we choose to parent, as women we should be more supportive of one another rather than add to the stress that every parent feels. 

When I was pregnant with my son I was working at my dream job with NBC.  Making the choice to walk away after all the years spent in college, grad school and internships was the most difficult decision of my life.  I wasn't throwing a party for myself because I could finally stay home and have a man keep me up.  I was devastated.  Living in New York City is extremely expensive and many people are paying college tuition prices in order to keep their children in day care or with nannies.  Financially, it just doesn't always make sense to go to work if you're going to spend your entire salary on childcare.  Luckily, I have a husband who's job is enough for us to live comfortably and I'm able to stay home.  It took me an entire year to feel comfortable in the stay at home mom role.  I constantly felt disrespected and looked down upon.  All of a sudden I wasn't a college educated female making a difference in the world.  I was just a mom that was SO LUCKY to get to stay home.  Some days I would cry and some days I would be able to appreciate it when I would look at my tiny baby and see how much he needed me.  "Maybe I was lucky," I would tell myself.  That being said, I know everyone doesn't have that same option.

Some families need both parents to work and can't get by without a dual income.  Others live in areas with more affordable childcare and choose to keep working.  There are too many situations to fit every household in one category.  Some mothers feel strongly about staying home with their babies and they find a way.  Others would lose their mind staying home even if they could and find a way to make it work.  We struggle enough just trying to keep our kids alive and trying not to fuck them up. Why do we need to add the extra stress of feeling judged on whether we choose to stay home or not?

Even in tight groups of friends you will witness hostility, albeit in less obvious ways, but it's still there. I have mom friends that are career women and will occasionally make a remark about how they work and I don't. They don't have time to be on Pinterest or watch Real Housewives marathons all day because they are so busy in their careers. Conversely the stay at home moms pointing to the relationship between a child and it's caregiver, stating that they could never let someone else raise their children knowing the baby is bonding more with the nanny. It's a pack of mean moms who instead of discussing their insecurities of parenting find ways to take it out on each other.  Every parent struggles with the thought of whether they're doing the best for their child.  The last thing a mother needs is other women making us question ourselves even more. 

 We need to lift each other up and voice our concerns openly, without fear of judgment.  We need to admire our peers and remind them of what an amazing job they are doing to provide for their family.  We need to respect the moms who immerse themselves in the important role of raising children.  Our arms should be open to each mom and her daily successes and struggles, be they at the office or the home.  The truth is that we are all doing the best that we can and all have the same mission... to care for our children and give them the best.  Way to go, Mom!!!  MOM POWER!!!!!  

 

 

Friday, November 18, 2016

My Tried & True Thanksgiving Guide

Tried & True Thanksgiving Guide


I wasn't sure if I could get into the Thanksgiving spirit after this crazy election, but as the holiday nears and we prepare to leave for San Francisco tomorrow, I'm feeling the thankful vibes again.  The truth is life won't always go your way and we have to stay focused and remember the good things right now.  These years will go by oh-so quickly and I don't want to remember that 2016 was bitter and sad for me.  I want to look back and see my kids laughing and smiling while everyone gets bloated on good food!!!  Fat pants and a crazy family are worth not hiding at home!  ;)  I posted this guide a few years ago right after Hurricane Sandy.  If I can host an awesome Thanksgiving after that mess, we can all host one after this election.  Thanksgiving on people!!! 

Thanksgiving Table Setting






Mason Jars with twine
Straws from Shop Sweet LULU
Window Breakfast Nook with Pillows
Cappuccino Napkins from Target (last year)
Buckets filled with pumpkins and leaves from Pottery Barn



The Recipes


1) DEEP FRIED TURKEY

The hubby does the turkey every year and I do the sides. He always does it deep fried and I can't imagine ever going back. It's amazing!! 


2) Pumpkin Pie Macaroons

RECIPE


 


3) Pumpkin Cheese Ball

RECIPE


4)

 ICED VANILLA FRAPPUCCINO RECIPE

 
 

 

5)Paula Deen's Texas Brisket RECIPE







6 & 7)

PRACTICALLY PERFECT PUMPKIN PIE





 We hope everyone has an amazing Thanksgiving and remember... focus on the family and the memories and leave the rest outside. XOXO

Thursday, October 27, 2016

Amazing Last Minute Halloween Costumes for the Kiddos






Amazing Last Minute Halloween Costumes for the Kiddos ...

Halloween is on Monday and if your family is anything like ours... it totally came out of nowhere!  With our first kid, I had costumes and activities planned months in advance.  Halloween was smooth, fun and easy.  With the addition of our second kid... I haven't been on time for anything yet!  Hahaha!

Here are some costumes ideas to make sure your Halloween is still fun and stress-free, even if you're scrambling to put your outfits together at the last minute.  ;)  Now, get to it!!!


Sweet Little Ghost- This mask is so easy to make at home ! Here is a great-> print out ghost mask from netmoms that you can easily trace onto to felt fabric and add string. Pair it with a white dress and tights ... you are ready to go!



photo credit- oppositeoffar

- Box of Crayons- Group Costume-  This costume idea is so fun and easy if you need a quick idea for a large family or if you and your friend's kids want to do something together. It's brilliant and the tutorial is right here and ready for you at -->  THE HOUSE THAT LARS BUILT .

photo credit- the house that built lars






- Moth Costume- This is one amazing creative costume. I may do this one myself!!

All you need is feathers, a fur coat, large circle sunglasses, an old sheet, and a tie died kit. You can easily put this together in a weekend and no one will EVER think you did this last minute. So amazing!
photo credit- Oh happy Day

- Little Artist-  This one is quick, easy, cheap and most of us creative types have this stuff just laying around. It may not be the most unique but let the kiddos have a painting session before heading out to trick or treat and they will most likely leave with their own little crazy creation ... paint in hair, on skin and clothes... come on let them have lots of messy fun with this one ;)

photo credit- Kelle Hamptom


- Amelie-  One of my all time favorite movies ( check it out if you haven't watched it) ... I'm dying over this one. I think I may have Sienna's costume already figured out for next year or even mine!! Love love LOVE this one! All you need is a Beret, short black wig ,  cardigan, vintage dress, black mask, and a red umbrella


photo credit- oh happy day


- Voting Poll-  Which the election just around the corner, this is a PERFECT Halloween costume for you parents that are super talented with the cardboard box. All you need is a cardboard box, lots of paint, and lots of passion!! I really hope someone does this!!!!



Well there you have it .... our last minute Halloween suggestions. We are currently working on ours today but it's a secret ;-)  See you on Halloween!!!



xoxo
The Pyros~


Tuesday, October 25, 2016

PORTLAND !!!!!

Portland Oregon 



Many visitors to Portland, Oregon find that the city offers such a great variety of attractions, food, and activities, they could see themselves calling it home.  Within an hour of our arrival in PDX, that was all it took to make me feel the same way!  From the fantastic array of yummy food trucks and sinful doughnut/coffee shops to an awesome selection of outdoor fun, the City of Roses offers a laid-back vibe that is sure to draw you to its charm.  My kids loved walking the streets and mingling with the eccentric and quirky Portlanders.  Even my husband, a true and true New Yorker, said he could live there.  The icing on the Voodoo Doughnut is that my mom lives a short drive away across the California border (five hours is a short drive out west).  There is truly something for everyone.  Portland, we love you!

1) blue star donuts

The staff is super friendly and the donuts are said to be the best in town. My favorite- The Mexican Hot Chocolate!! 






2) Tidbit food farm and garden
Tidbit Food Farm and Garden- this place was perfect for our family. Open farm and play for the kids who wanted to be loud and crazy and not told to be quiet inside over and over. Finding this awesome spot took a lot of stress off my family for dinner time. We sat at a picnic table while live music played and we drank home brewed beers while the kids ate healthy food that they picked out themselves. Perfect!!!! There were many healthy options for every food taste. I can't express enough how much this place is perfect for my followers. You guys are going to love it!! 



3) ace hotel

If you follow my blog then you know we tend to stay at the Ace hotel if there is one in the city we are in... they never fail. Always a favorite ( check out our all time favorite Ace location in Palm Springs) and always fun! The Portland Ace is super hip as promised and our favorite part was the bike rentals and photo booth in the lobby. Jax and I spent an hour doing the photobooth. Those pics are on the fridge now and brings back such happy memories. 




4) vista house at crown point
Vista House At Crown Point-  A little drive outside the city if you are up for an adventure day. Parking is a little difficult on a crowded day so maybe avoid visiting on a weekend if you can. Amazing views and the perfect picture spot for of you social media travel pic happy people;-) Inside there are bathrooms and cute gift shops where the kiddos will cry for the super cute stuffed animals ( we left with two adorable stuffed dogs that we named River and Bently.  Just a warning;) ha 




Some of our other favorites include Stumptown Coffee Roasters Downtown, Keller Fountain Park , 















Thanks to my super amazing family for always going with me on all of my adventures with enthusiasm and joy in their hearts. I love my crazy crew!!!! =) 















if you like this post check out our other kid friendly vacations..