Monday, June 23, 2014

100 Days of Happy =-) #100happydays

For the past several years, I have tried to find happiness in every single day.  I can't stress how amazing it is to be truly thankful for something deep down in your soul every... single... day!  One more time... EVERY... SINGLE... DAY!  Whether it be someting BIG like a new job allowing you to relocate to the city of your dreams or the smallest thing that others may not notice... such as a the warmth of a sunbeam on your body that brings back a beautiful memory.  Whatever it is, I believe in the idea of putting it out there and sharing with anyone that will listen to put the brakes on any pessimistic thoughts that may creep into your brain and bring you down.  Now... imagine 100 days of kicking your pessimism in the pessimistic butt!  One hundred days of going to bed knowing that the hug from your child brought you more joy than the frustration you felt when you spilled coffee on your new shirt.  I don't care how corny it sounds people... LIFE IS SHORT!  IT IS!  IT IS!  IT IS!  If you are miserable more often than not, then it's time to take a challenge of finding the good in each and every day.  Let's do it together and join me in 100 days of finding joy in your life! 

Today when you see something that brings a smile to your face and joy in your heart, capture it and put it on Instagram with the hashtag #100happydays.  If you want to meet new people that are joining in on the same day, hashtag what day you are on... #day1, #day2, etc.  We can all celebrate together when we reach 100... it's important to have goals, but no need to stop there!  Keep the streak alive!

I am so excited to start this today because I know that when the stress of being a mom, a wife, a nursing student, and a loving friend can become overwhelming, there is still so much to be thankful for.  =-) Cheers to 100 days of being happy!!! 

Monday, June 9, 2014

A DETOX FOR THE NEGATIVE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE.



One of the hardest things to do in life is to rid yourself of negative people and things that are keeping you from happiness, success, and the freedom of drama and stress.  It's even more difficult if it's people that you care about and that you would love more than anything to have them be happy in your happy life. Unfortunately, not everyone is in a place where peace, love, and compassion is their daily goal and not everyone is going to be supportive and have your best interest at heart. 

First of all, let me get this out of the way... NO, I am not perfect and yes, I have been in a place in my life where drama was OK and I was destructive and unhappy.  No... I am not judging others or saying I am better or more sane or happier. What I am saying is that it's OK to admit that some people are toxic for you and that doesn't mean they are bad people. They are however bad for you.  If you are continuing to grow and improve yourself; hanging on to those that are not ready will only hold you back and emotionally drain you.  If drama continues to find you because you choose to have it around... eventually YOU have to take responsibility and it may be time to do a HUGE cleaning in your life. 



Step 1- Identifying the toxic people in your life. 

This detox isn't an excuse for you to throw out everyone that has ruffled your feathers in the past. It doesn't mean that you walk away from family or friends that have messed up or made a mistake. None of us are perfect and we all make mistakes. You should forgive in the same way, you hope someone will forgive you if you mess up. Toxic people are constantly destructive and have zero desire to change. They will never admit when they are wrong and point the finger at everyone else. Toxic people are full of jealousy and will belittle your hopes and dreams in order to build themselves up. They spread rumors and lies when they feel threatened by your success. They are never supportive and will fill your head with doubts instead of positive encouragement. They complain more then they appreciate. They see more bad then good in you and everyone around them.

Ask yourself these questions..
How does this person make me feel after I see or talk to them? 
Do they make me feel good or bad about myself?
Does this person drain my energy or make me feel energized?
Does this person encourage me or belittle me?
Does this person always question my goals and ideas?
Does this person bring more drama or joy to my life?




Step 2- STOP FEELING GUILTY
In order to let people go, you have to stop letting guilt keep them around. Toxic people are never going to admit that you are right and that they were wrong and will more than likely make you feel guilty for making this decision. Instead of taking a step back and really analyzing why you are making this choice, they will turn everything on you. You are the crazy one, you are not ACTUALLY a good person for only trying 500 times to help them, you are selfish, you are mean, you are jealous, I could go on and on. Be ready for the worst because YOU WILL hear it all. As long as you send these toxic people on their way with love and prayer... you have NOTHING to feel guilty about. You are not abandoning or judging, you are setting free and taking control of your own life. FEEL PROUD NOT GUILTY.


Step 3- Surround yourself with POSITIVES!
As you get older you start to realize the true meaning behind quality over quantity. It is no longer important to be popular and to have tons of friends and people around you if more then half of them are toxic. Once you start surrounding yourself with Positives- people that uplift you, are happy when you land a great new job or buy a new house, get excited that you reached your goal weight or met your soul mate, and they listen and support every crazy idea and dream that you come up with. The positives are the people that you look up too and that have their own amazing lives and dreams. Together you are a power team kicking total ass at life. 


Step 4- Out of sight, out of mind... not this time.
As easy as it would be to never see this toxic person again, sometimes it just can't be avoided... an ex that you have a child with, a family member who will be there at every holiday, a co-worker, a friend that is still friends with your non toxic friends... you get the idea. The key is to learn how to follow... In sight, still out of mind. You can still be nice and show compassion to someone that you have nicely kicked out your life. Believe me that it's not easy and everything they do will annoy you like nails on a chalkboard. You have to find your calm place... your center, breath, and think of how far you have come and continue to release positive, happy energy. Positive vibes to a Toxic person are like bug spray to a wasp. They will be angry and annoyed at first and eventually wear down and go away. Never let the revisit of a toxic person steal you away from your happy place. 

Step 5- Be strong and be smart, but stay open minded.

OK... so it might be true that MOST people never change... however, that isn't the case for everyone. It depends on age, tragedy, and events that could happen later on in life to this toxic person.  If a friend didn't make the best decisions in life when they were 19, I am guessing that at 30, 40, even 25, that they are not the same person. Being young is all about making mistakes and trying to find your place in life... expecting someone under 20 to have it all together is a little unreasonable. If your 35 year old girlfriend still loves getting away with stealing at the mall... you might want to assume that change isn't in their near future. If you meet a toxic person right after they went through a tragedy and it took them longer to heal and now a few years down the line they get in touch and seem healthier and in a better place, it might be OK to go grab coffee and catch up. You will know immediately if you did the right thing or not. It's always OK to give people more chances then they deserve if they are on the right road to being a positive. You have to be strong, stay smart, and trust your gut. Sadly... some people will NEVER change.


Step 6- Let Toxic People Motivate You.
You may have finally rid yourself of these toxic people but the damage is done. We are only human and when someone you once cared about says you can't do something, it's easy to let yourself buy into it. Instead of doubting yourself and letting toxic people mess with your head... let them motivate you to go after every single thing they said you couldn't do! Don't forget... you totally rock at life and you can do anything you want!! Take all the nos and turn them into Hell yeahs! Not going after your dreams because some unhappy toxic person... big surprise... decided to be negative about your wants in life only lets them win.  Toxics pray for your failure and not your successes... be good to yourself and take the advice from the positives in your life-- GO AFTER THAT DREAM! 



This detox will be scary and it will be hard but it's time to put yourself first and continue down the road to a better you. When you are a better you, you are a better mom, a better boyfriend/girlfriend, teacher, dog mom, designer, singer, wife/husband...  Life is short and why not be free and at peace? Time to clean out the toxic clutter and make room for the good and the wonderful.   

=-)

Monday, June 2, 2014

Skinny Buffalo Chicken Baked Potato




I love chicken wings and it's one of my favorite cheat meals! When I am eating clean and healthy, I wanted to find a way to battle the craving... these potatoes are so easy and SO delicious! With only 270 calories a potato, you will love this recipe! ENJOY! 

Cook one chicken breast and toss is Frank's Hot Sauce --(Frank's is gluten free and low calorie)
Pour Bleu Cheese Dressing inside of the potato first and then add the chicken and garnish with celery and Chives
Delicious and only 270 calories!


Skinny Buffalo Chicken Potato


Prep Time- 10 mins Yield- 1 serving

Ingredients:
1- small to medium size baked potato
Frank's hot sauce (to your liking- I used 3 tablespoons)
2-tablespoons of Walden farms calorie free Bleu Cheese Dressing
1- chicken breast - grilled and cut into small pieces
Celery -- shredded thin for garnish
Chives- for garnish



Directions

 Cooked baked potato your way. Grill chicken breast and cut into bite size pieces. Toss chicken with hot sauce. Pour bleu cheese dressing into potato first then layer with chicken. Garnish with celery and chives. 


Nutrition 

1Serving 
270Calories
5 gFat
10 gCarbohydrate
1.8gFiber
1 gSugar
16.4 gProtein